Signs Of An Affair

Ten Signs Of An Affair

No one wants to believe that a partner or spouse is having an affair but unfortunately, infidelity is far too common.  Worrying about it and just wondering without having facts is enough to drive anyone crazy so the best thing you could do is understand the signs of an affair, which would help confirm or deny your suspensions.

The following signs of a cheating spouse or partner are some of the more obvious but of course, these are merely indicators.  Of course, along with these and other signs, you could also consider hiring a cheating spouse investigator.  However, consider the things on this list first in that you may end up with the answer before you spend money for this type of service.

1.    Change in Sexual Behavior – One of the first things most people notice when a partner or spouse is having an affair is a change in sexual behavior.  For instance, if the two of you have had a healthy sexual relationship and intimate time becomes less and less or if your partner/spouse suddenly shows interest in trying new things, you should pay attention and then begin looking for other signs of cheating.
 
2.    Phone Calls – Another indicator that something is going on has to do with phone calls.  This might involve calls being received early in the morning or late at night, your partner/spouse rushing to get to the phone before you can answer it, you answering the call only to have the caller hang up, or a conversation occurring quietly or out of earshot.

3.    Time in the Gym – If your partner or spouse has always worked out but now you find that he/she is spending more time at the gym or if this person never worked out before and suddenly shows interest in improving appearance, you should be asking why.  Now, it could be that the individual simply wants to lose weight or adopt a healthier lifestyle but a change such as this could also be a sign of an affair.

4.    Smells – You should also pay attention to any different smells on the person.  As an example, if you start to notice the smell of perfume or cologne, cigarettes or cigars, or even changes in bodily odors, this should raise concern.

5.    Gifts – Many people having an affair actually feel some degree of guilt, even if they have fallen out of love with their partner or spouse.  To compensate for the guilt, their partner/spouse is showered with gifts.  Therefore, if you are presented with gifts where you never were before or the gifts you now receive are more lavish, it could be from guilt and not love.

6.    Money Matters – This is usually a big issue when a person is cheating.  When two people share a bank account and suddenly one insists on maintaining two accounts, if you notice money that is unaccounted for, or if your partner/spouse hides credit card statements, these clues could indicate that perhaps an affair is going on.

7.    Computer Time – Another sign that your partner or spouse is seeing someone else is based on the amount of time spent on the computer and the time of day on the computer.  In this case, if the individual were spending an increasing amount of time on the computer or using it late into the night, especially after you have gone to bed, you need to be asking why.

8.    Running Late – Next, if you find that the person you love is always showing up late, which could be from “working late at the office due to a mandatory/ unexpected meeting/deadline” or not making it to a family gathering or dinner with you, it could be that the extra time is being spent with someone else.

9.    Out of Town Trips – You should also be suspicious of an affair if your partner/spouse starts taking out of town trips for business or pleasure or strongly encourages you to take off to visit family or friends or perhaps attend a seminar.

10.    Gut Instinct – Again, no person wants to believe that an affair is going on but the truth is that if most of us would pay attention to our “gut instinct”, following what the heart is trying to say, we would have the answer needed.  Although you would still want proof of an affair, if you have that feeling inside the pit of your stomach that something is wrong, chances are it is.