Signs Of An Affair

Real Signs Of A Cheating Spouse

As you will discover, the real signs of a cheating spouse are diverse.  This is because the reason people cheat varies dramatically.  For instance, a wife or husbands cheating might be that the individual no longer feels special and needed in the marriage or that time spent in the bedroom is just not as exciting as one person may want.  Therefore, the reason for the affair would have some impact on the signs of an affair.

•    No Longer Special – Looking at the first scenario mentioned, if a husband or wife no longer feels loved, special, and needed, then signs of infidelity might include physical and emotional distancing.  Since this person is putting all his or her attention on the relationship outside the marriage, there is little left for the person inside the marriage, which soon becomes quite noticeable.
 
•    Sexual Excitement – In the second situation, if one spouse feels intimacy and sex is no longer exciting or frequent enough, then signs would be different.  While some distancing would be expected, another sign might be the spouse who is dissatisfied sexually wanting the other person to try new positions or use sex toys or it could be the opposite with that person completely shutting down physically.

•    Low Self-Esteem – If an affair has started because the husband or wife is struggling with confidence and self-esteem issues, it would be expected to see signs of cheating such as spending long hours at the local gym to improve body image.  Other signs in this case would be the person cheating wearing different style clothing, choosing a different hair color and/or style, and even switching to a new perfume or cologne.  Usually, in this case, the signs are associated more with outward appearance.

•    Jealousy – People even cheat when they feel jealous of a spouse.  For instance, if a wife’s partner works in a nightclub where he is constantly around other women, beautiful women, and even though he is not doing anything more than flirting; her reaction might be to take drastic measures to get his attention.  Typically, she would also be struggling with some self-esteem issues so while she would probably not be interested in the person she is cheating with, she is desperately trying to do something shocking as a means of capturing her husband’s attention so he will flirt with her instead.

•    Workaholic – Another situation in which signs of cheating would be seen is the husband or wife, or both being a workaholic.  Without putting quality time aside for each other, choosing instead to spend free time at the office, the marriage is going to suffer.  Common signs in this situation include the husband or wife staying at work even when there is no reason, taking more frequent trips out of town, avoiding family gatherings, and even coming home with lavish gifts, out of guilt.

•    Loss of a Child – You would think that a husband and wife losing a child would come together, which in turn would strengthen the marriage but in truth, studies show that many people in this situation will turn to someone else for comfort.  In fact, most marriages involving the death of a child fail.  In this case, shutdown of communication, elimination of intimacy, and finding one excuse after another to be away from the home would be expected when an affair is occurring.